being right, making wrong

Posted on August 31, 2007


How often each day do we need to be right?

It gives us a sense of identity . . . confidence . . . superiority.

In order to be right, someone has to be made wrong.when you judge

Who me? I don’t stoop to such things . . .

My opinions are never “right”, better than others.

My beliefs are never “right”, superior to others.

And my values?

We don’t divide people into right and wrong in politics, do we?

Of course, right and wrong has nothing to do with war, right?

Unless “they” are so wrong that they deserve to be dead . . .

along with their families . . .

And we are so “right” that we must pre-emptively attack . . .

Who are the terrorists, anyway?

Being right and making others wrong is the activity of the ego; that human instrument of self-absorbtion.

And it all starts with complaining, faultfinding, and reactivity.

“Complaining as well as faultfinding and reactivity strengthen the ego’s sense of boundary and separateness on which its survival depends. But they also strengthen the ego in another way by giving it a feeling of superiority on which it thrives. It may not be immediately apparent how complaining, say, about a traffic jam, about politicians, about the ‘greedy wealthy’ or the ‘lazy unemployed’, or your colleagues or ex-spouse, men or women, can give you a sense of superiority. Here is why. When you complain, by implication you are right and the person or situation you complain about or react against is wrong.

“There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right. Being right is identification with a mental position–a perspective, an opinion, a judgment, a story. For you to be right, of course, you need someone else to be wrong, and so the ego loves to make wrong in order to be right. In other words: You need to make others wrong in order to get a stronger sense of who you are. Not only a person, but also a situation can be made wrong through complaining and reactivity, which always implies that ‘this should not be happening.’ Being right places you in a position of imagined moral superiority in relation to the person or situation that is being judged and found wanting. It is that sense of superiority the ego craves and through which it enhances itself.” (Eckhart Tolle. “A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose”. pp. 66-67)

“But I must defend the Truth!”

Am I defending the Truth . . . or defending myself . . . my self image?

Why would the Truth need defense. And by me???

If it is the Truth, it has stood on its own throughout the ages.prayerofstfrancis

Why do I have to “be right” and “make others wrong”?

Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself , and take up his cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24

Don’t judge , and you won’t be judged. Don’t condemn, and you won’t be condemned. Set free, and you will be set free. Luke 6:37

“Each of us creates a picture of our world by connecting a dozen or so of the trillions of dots that would need to be connected to make a ‘true’ portrait of the universe.” — Sam Keen

“The Place Where We Are Right”,
by the great Israeli poet Yehuda Amichai:

“From the place where we are right
flowers will never grow
in the spring.

The place where we are right
is hard and trampled
like a yard.

But doubts and loves
dig up the world
like a mole, a plough.

And a whisper will be heard in the place
where the ruined
house once stood.”