Posted on September 30, 2011


I discovered a new song. New to me, at least.

I sit here listening to its message, listening from a place of depth, from my heart;

the song plays over and over… as I allow it to overwhelm me to tears…

I realize how often we miss the whole point of life and living.

Love is all that matters. This is not just a love song. It is a song of life, and caring, and friendship, and people, and spirituality, and all things that matter…

I don’t know if the author intended it, but that’s how I hear it… loud and clear.

The song is “Soft” by Boney James (featuring Ann Nesby). (click the link to hear it)  Here are the lyrics.

Send me love that’s soft
Let me know a love that’s soft
Softer than a cloud
And roses moist with rain
A child’s gentle kiss
Make his love soft like this
And send me love that’s warm
Let me know a love that’s warm
Warmer than the sun
And sips of brandy wine
The white coals of a fire
So warm I’ll never tire…
Of how he touches me
Send me love that’s soft,
So soft.
So soft
Send me a love that’s soft.

What else is there in life, but friends and family… and love.

What else is love, but caring; seeing you, hearing you;

a seeing that goes through the facade to the heart of the person

a hearing that listens to the heart behind the words and actions.

‎”What every single human being longs for, at the deepest level, is to be seen for who they are.” (Sarita Chawla)

We come into this world dependent, vulnerable, fragile, and soft . . . in need of soft and caring touch.

We leave this world dependent, vulnerable, and fragile and soft . . . in need of soft and caring touch.

We spend our lives in between convincing ourselves that we are tough and invulnerable;

independent and in need of nothing.

But if the most important thing in life is love, and the heart of love is connecting with others heart to heart, then why do we spend most of our lives running from love . . . hiding from others . . . hiding our souls?

Is our toughness full of fear? of weakness?

Is our vulnerability truly our strength?

Could it be that that softness can overcome the hardest of hearts? … like water wears through the hardest rock? … with its persistent presence and soft touch?

Could it be that the most fierce, overpowering, overwhelming love, is the love that loves through the rock hardness of the human heart with its persistent presence and soft touch?

Could it be that the toughness of the ego is just a facade covering up our fear and weakness?

Could it be that true strength is a fountain flowing from the human heart that is open, vulnerable, sensitive, gentle, and tender? a continuous fountain; clear, steady, and powerful? Is this the kind of strength that it takes to be a warrior of love in this life?

“Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength”
(St. Francis de Sales)
“Our greatest strength lies in gentleness and tenderness of heart.”

In the book, Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior, warriorship is taught as a way of life. A warrior lives a life of fearlessness only if the person lives a life that is fully aware and fully present. The characteristic at the core of warriorship is gentleness; which comes from tenderness.

“Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world (touch) your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world. You are willing to share your heart with others.”

“In the Shambhala tradition, discovering fearlessness comes from working with the softness of the human heart.” “When a human being first gives birth to the tender heart of warriorship… You no longer need to feel shy or embarrassed about being gentle. In fact, your softness begins to become passionate. You would like to extend yourself to others and communicate with them. When tenderness evolves in that direction, then you can truly appreciate the world around you. Sense perceptions become very interesting things. You are so tender and open already that you cannot help opening yourself to what takes place all around you … You begin to feel comfortable being a gentle and decent person.”

“We can not do great things on this earth. We can only do small things with great love.” (Mother Teresa)
“Love doesn’t mean doing extraordinary or heroic things. It means knowing how to do ordinary things with tenderness.” (Jean Vanier)
Nothing in the world is more flexible
and yielding than water.
Yet when it attacks the firm and the strong,
none can withstand it,
Because they have no way to change it.
So the flexible overcome the adamant,
the yielding overcome the forceful.
Everyone knows this,
but no one can do it.
(Lao Tzu, from the Tao Te Ching)
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