… and am still learning.
(a reflection on Father’s Day, 2016)
1. What I think I already know
… is always only part of the story.
2. If I already know,
… I can no longer learn.
3. I should not believe everything I’m told,
… questioning is an important virtue.
~~~
4. To love means to seek to understand
… more than to be understood.
5. The beginning of understanding is listening,
… without talking.
6. Unconditional love is unconditional,
… period.
~~~
7. (7 is the perfect number) A loving heart is revealed by the friends we choose,
… often friends without friends.
8. A loving heart is revealed by the friends we stick with,
… no matter what.
9. A loving heart welcomes the stranger
… embracing differences.
~~~
10. “Telling” is more of an act of dominance
… than love.
11. All true change comes from within ourselves,
… not from outside ourselves.
12. Therefore we must learn to listen to the inner teacher,
… the still, small voice.
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13. We must remember that the voice of the smallest, of the “least of these”,
… often is full of the greatest wisdom.
14. Wisdom may be shouted from on high among many loud and competing voices,
… but is speaking most clearly yet quietly in the lowest places.
15. Wisdom is always speaking, with and without words, but is never heard,
… unless we are listening.
These things I have learned not so much by being a father but more so by being a listener, an observer of these precious lives as they grow. Truly they have been my role models, my teachers.
I can only wish I understood these things during the whole time that I was parenting them….
Thank you Joel, Evan, and Myka.
For more see,
Raising Kids Alone: https://ronirvine.wordpress.com/2010/08/02/raising-kids-alone/
The Search for Wisdom: https://ronirvine.wordpress.com/2008/11/19/the-search-for-truth
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